An example of ablesplaining: A neurotypical medical professional tells you that ‘you find it difficult to communicate with others, to make friendships and to empathise. That’s because you’re autistic’. Non-autistic people, not just professionals but friends or family who’ve ‘seen it on TikTok’, or whose ‘friend’s son is autistic’, feel entitled to describe who we are, as if they know us better than we know ourselves.

 

 

Ablesplaining also includes explaining to others your apparent needs, without consulting you, on the assumption that you are not able to explain for yourself.